Wrestling with real estate takes a toll on mom

My house has been on the market for just over three weeks. It is a nice house. Nothing fancy, but it is our home, filled with lots of love and laughter (not to mention beautiful silestone countertops!). We don’t have anything against the two-story, four-bedroom house, but it simply won’t accommodate our growing family.

When for sale feels like FORever.No, no! No baby on the way. Our girls, Serina and Sophia, are more than enough, thank you. Rather, my 78-year-old mother is headed to Huntsville from Minneapolis. She wants to be closer to her young grandchildren and, considering she is their last surviving grandparent, we want her closer too. Mormor (Norwegian for mother’s mother) will be a delight to have around, with her strong accent, unconditional love and eternally optimistic outlook.

Mormor’s mobility is limited, though, and she needs a full master suite on the main level. Since we want our own master, as well, preferably with some distance between the two, we have very specific requirements for the home we are seeking for our next “season.” We think we have found the perfect one, but we cannot buy until we sell.

Real estate experts say the market is improving, with a 21 percent increase in home sales in Madison County from February 2012 to March, but the situation looks dismal when you are the one with the for sale sign in your front yard. Three weeks and six showings into the process, patience starts to thin and spirits start to crumble.

While one potential buyer expressed interest, five others cited reasons why they wouldn’t buy our home. Kind of kicks the ego a bit, even though the rational mind tells you it shouldn’t. Of course, I do believe there is one family God will guide to our home. A family who can fill these rooms with as much love and laughter as we have. But I can’t control when they will show up or when they will make an offer.

And that is driving me nuts.

Every now and then, I hand the burden back to God, reminding myself that it isn’t mine to carry. It is during those times that I’m relieved of the stress associated with this uncertain real estate market.

Now to simply let go, for extended periods of time, and trust that the right family will find this house, and that within the next couple of months, we will be free to find ours.

About minndixiemom

I'm a Minnesota native with an Alabama heart, reflecting on the past while looking toward the future. My husband, David, and I landed in Huntsville in the late 90s through my former career in TV news. We have two amazing girls, Serina and Sophia, whom we are raising with God's guidance and grace. Besides faith and family, my passions include writing, walking, mental health, and recovery. By day, I'm the Director of Development for WellStone (another passion), North Alabama's largest and most comprehensive mental healthcare provider.
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2 Responses to Wrestling with real estate takes a toll on mom

  1. Melissa says:

    Karen, I hope you find a buyer for your house very soon. If we were in the market, I’d be sure to look at it because I know it would be a great (and well taken care of) house because it belongs to you! đŸ™‚

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